I still consider myself “new” to
this whole marriage thing. I started dating in high school and it wasn’t until
I was out of college and into my first real job that I met the man that is now
my husband. So, I dated for a few years, different people on and off and in
doing so I learned quite a lot about what I wanted in a man, and what I didn’t,
how to be in a relationship, and how and how not to love somebody. Even with
all of the things that I learned throughout all of my dating experiences, I am
still not always good at being married. I do try, but you see, I’m a selfish
person and often times I want what I want, and I want it NOW. A little
impulsivity never hurt anyone! I should give my husband some credit here
because although I may not always get what I want instantly, I usually end up
getting what I want eventually, I’m just not sure he realizes this yet…but that’s
okay! Let me elaborate….
As I’ve mentioned before, I had an amazing childhood, but
what I want to discuss goes far beyond all of my memories of riding ponies,
running free on my parent’s 100+ acre farm, or being the annoying little sister
that always listened in on my brother’s private phone calls. I have so many
fond memories of the smirks, whispered comments, and eye rolls that my mother
and I would share behind my dad’s back! Don’t get me wrong, this is NOT
disrespect….it is pure and simple SURVIVAL when living with a man! My poor
mother had lived in a house full of boys for about 12 years before I was born,
and then about 12 more years until I was able to understand her gestures that
often illustrated her frustration, annoyance, or sarcasm! There were two survival techniques in
particular that my mother taught me when dealing with a man.
1. ALWAYS make a man think that it’s his idea! You may be
asking, “What is his idea?” Well ladies,
anything and everything. My mom was right, and I never forgot it. For instance,
if I mention to Adam that we should go out to dinner he usually comes up with
some reason as to why we can’t, or shouldn’t on that particular night. However, if
I call him on my way home from work and ever-so-caringly ask him what he’d like
for dinner and then slyly mention that I haven’t been to the grocery store
lately, he will suggest going out to dinner….NEVER FAILS! It’s a win-win
situation…I got what I wanted, and he gets credit for his BRILLIANT idea!
2. ALWAYS make sure
that you will be financially stable if for some reason you lost your other
half. I’m sure that this was a cunning suggestion that my mom planted in my
head to encourage me to go to college and prepare myself for a career that paid
well, and it worked. I’ve never had to financially depend on anyone else, aside
from my parents when I was a child. I love this about myself, and I love that
my mom planted this seed in my head. I also love my “secret” bank account at a
completely separate bank that NOBODY else has access to! Typically, this gets
used up on “wants” of mine rather than needs, but I feel secure knowing that it’s
there…and completely untouchable to anyone but me!
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