You're the one he missed out on

            So you had this great boyfriend waaaaay back when, and then for whatever reason it didn’t work out. Secretly you still stalk him on facebook, and sometimes you even still drive by where he works because driving by his house is far too obvious. You definitely don’t want him back, but you need to make sure that he still wants you. You need to make sure that he has moved on a little, but that you could have him back at any time. After time, this goes away, but you’ll always wonder what he’s doing, how he’s doing.  We all have one of those guys, be honest.

            So what happens when you run into that guy? First, you ask how things are going? He says great, but he obviously  means that he’s doing okay and his wife is just okay, it’s you that he really wishes he had. Second you ask how his wife is doing. He says that she’s doing great…what he means is that she hasn’t lost the baby weight after the second child, and it’s you that he still thinks is hot! Third, you ask how the kids are. He says that they’re growing like a weed. What he doesn’t want to tell you is that his kids aren’t as smart as yours, or as cute for that matter!

            Why do we do this? If you don’t do this now, you have, so stop judging me! Everything that you’ve always wanted is right in front of you. You have the man you always wanted, the life you always wanted, and the children that you never knew you wanted until they changed your life forever and now you can’t imagine how you were ever happy without them. You even have the dogs and cats (and rabbits!) that your husband hates, but puts up with because you want them and love them! What more could you want? Well, it makes us feel good to be desired. If you had the chance to go back to your past love for one day with no consequences would you do it? Absolutely not.  But how much of a self-esteem boost is it when your husband’s friends mention how hot you are, or you catch the guy at work checking out your butt, or more importantly your ex-boyfriend? Flattering right? You can smile and reminisce right now…nobody will ever have to know that you agree with me. You know that your husband or boyfriend loves you and thinks you’re sexy even when he doesn’t tell you, but it feels good when you know someone else thinks you’re hot too. Don’t worry, it’s normal and it happens to the best of us, and we’re still the hot ones that he missed out on!